tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7633274511696051573.post6545088004398597867..comments2023-05-03T09:04:33.669-07:00Comments on Breaking the Silence: What my body desired!!!!!tarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03404356898310412228noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7633274511696051573.post-70624544130724358602012-02-21T11:03:48.067-08:002012-02-21T11:03:48.067-08:00Yes its the worse thing to feel and deal with but ...Yes its the worse thing to feel and deal with but being a victim has so many affects. Its hard to not go down that path. I try hard not to fall for every guy and let my guard down. But in the end we have to let our guard down but for the right reasons. We can continue on in life thinking everyone is going to hurt us. Yes there are cruel people out there but we cant keep allowing our abuse or abusers to keep that control over us. If we do its like were letting them win and the abuse is still there. <br /><br />Forgive me if im wrong and i apologize for speaking harshly but this is something i myself am recently learning. I held on to my abuse for so long that its still affecting me. But i am trying now to let it go so i can continue on with my life and follow my dreams and pursue a great career in counseling.tarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03404356898310412228noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7633274511696051573.post-68820393741630653192012-02-21T10:24:52.742-08:002012-02-21T10:24:52.742-08:00I can definitely relate to what you are saying her...I can definitely relate to what you are saying here. Unfortunately, being physically intimate without feelings involved was one of my coping mechanisms because I, too, felt loved, cared for in this sense. *sigh*Myselfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18140793765936514359noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7633274511696051573.post-53956919284001103802012-02-20T16:47:39.246-08:002012-02-20T16:47:39.246-08:00Thank you for your support. I appreciate it. I tha...Thank you for your support. I appreciate it. I thank God now i am able to be around guys and not be afraid that something will happen. I still keep a guard up sometimes but im trying to let it go.tarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03404356898310412228noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7633274511696051573.post-73103345458117070762012-02-20T12:22:07.429-08:002012-02-20T12:22:07.429-08:00Reading this I want to let you know that I can tot...Reading this I want to let you know that I can totally relate to everything you said. I did the same thing when it came to men, constantly searching for someone to fill that emptiness. Looking for a man to be our safe place and feel protected but we were always looking in the wrong places. I totally relate to you and keep on posting and encouraging. Thank you Tara for your post and support!!Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17649050527191299883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7633274511696051573.post-13937993138304309452012-02-18T15:06:09.505-08:002012-02-18T15:06:09.505-08:00Your welcome. I know i can relate its just at time...Your welcome. I know i can relate its just at times i feel like i cant. I always felt what happened to me didnt matter. When i told my mom about my uncle touching me, she first kicked him out then when everyone else found out, they all started saying it was a spank in the butt. So i never told her what her husband did to me and also because she didnt believe my sister when it happened to her. It is a betrayal not only by the abusers but also the parent who didnt do anything about it. Thats what hurts the most.tarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03404356898310412228noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7633274511696051573.post-40721371444688246892012-02-18T11:34:23.155-08:002012-02-18T11:34:23.155-08:00as you mentioned, regardless of whether you were r...as you mentioned, regardless of whether you were raped or molested it is something that should not have happened. You said you felt you couldnt relate- i disagree. The worst thing about being raped wasn't the physical act but the betrayal i felt.<br /><br />Thanks for sharing.r33nahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13349427342678944855noreply@blogger.com