I have decided to make my own pros and con list of why it is hard to keep silent and to most why it is ok to keep silent.These are what i think happens since it happened to me. Im going to start off with the Cons.... Here we go....
-Your emotions go haywire.
-Your flashbacks are worse.
-Flashbacks are more frequent.
-Since you kept the hurt to yourself in ways you try to deny it happened
-You start to believe that is was your fault.
-You feel like you deserve it
-You begin to think no one will believe you.
-You become depress and start to cut yourself.
WELL THERE ARE NO PROS TO KEEPING SILENT. SPEAK OUT NOW. DON'T MAKE THE MISTAKE I DID. I NEVER SPOKE OUT TO SOMEONE ABOUT MY ABUSE. I KEPT SILENT FOR 10+ YRS. NO ONE BELIEVE. NO EVEN MY MOTHER. IF THERE IS SOMEONE WHO IS WILLING TO LISTEN TO YOU AND HELP YOU OUT PLEASE GO AND TALK TO THEM ABOUT YOUR ABUSE. DON'T HOLD IN IT. ITS NOT WORTH THE PAIN. THE SUFFERING YOU HAVE TO ENDURE WHEN YOU KEPT SILENT. I WAS SUICIDAL AT ONE POINT. I USED TO CUT MYSELF. I STOPPED BECAUSE I WAS ABLE TO MOVE OUT THE HOUSE EVEN THOUGH IT TOOK MY TIL I WAS 24 YEARS OLD. YOU HAVE TO SPEAK OUT. PLEASE!!! YOU ARE NOT ALONE. I MAY NOT BE THERE PHYSICALLY BUT I AM HERE FOR THOSE WHO NEED SUPPORT. ALTHOUGH I WAS NOT RAPED BUT I WAS MOLESTED TWICE SO I KNOW HOW IT FEELS TO BE HURT. ITS HARD. BUT IN THE END YOU WILL BE OK. YOU HAVE MY SUPPORT. AS WELL AS SUPPORT FROM OTHER SURVIVORS AND PLACES TO GO TO. I FOUND SUPPORT THROUGH THE JOYFUL HEART FOUNDATION WHICH WAS CREATED BY MARISKA HARGITAY. SHE IS AMAZING AND SHE HELPS VICTIMS. YOU CAN REACH OUT TO THAT FOUNDATION. VISIT THE WEBSITE. THERE IS ALSO ONE CALLED RAINN. YOU HAVE OPTIONS. I DIDNT. PLEASE GET HELP. IM HERE IF YOU NEED ENCOURAGEMENT OR JUST THAT LITTLE PUSH. YOU CAN DO IT. I HAVE FAITH IN YOU ALL. DON'T GIVE OUR ABUSERS THAT JUSTICE. THE FACT THAT THEY HAD POWER OVER US. WE ARE NO LONGER VICTIMS. WE ARE SURVIVORS AND WE WILL STAND STRONG TOGETHER.